The first week in a brand new year was unfolding gracefully for me as I tackled the tasks I was setting for myself for that week while staying at Grail Springs one of the most amazing wellness resorts in Ontario, Canada, a couple of years ago.
I spend most part of every December planning for the new year. I am a firm believer in resolutions lists and I take mine a little too seriously. I make sure I cover everything. Family, career, hobbies, relationships, friends, mind, body, heart, and soul. It started when I was just a teenager and year by year, I would jazz it up little by little.
These last few years though, my planning was based on a dream I had a few years back. A dream that I truly believed in, but didn’t have a clue on how to make a reality, especially with the limiting negative self-talk I had back then. That was then, and this is now. Now has come the time for action. Now, I am living that dream.
As little kids, our dreams were always bigger than life itself. We believed we can do anything. We were determined. We thought nothing was impossible. Then we get hushed down, criticized, and told to keep it down by the ‘adults’ in our lives until we are finally muted and our dreams soon become mere wishful thinking.
We become programmed to disregard and criticize our dreams and become envious or critical of the dreams of others. We start to just live from day-to-day, year to year, just doing doing doing, even when the doing is not in alignment with what our hearts want or with what we’ve ‘once upon a time dreamt of. Before you know it, we are in our 30′s, 40′s, or 50′s and we find ourselves in a mid-life crisis.
I like calling it a mid-life awakening because that is truly what it is. You awake to your true passion, your true purpose and the rest of your life starts to reflect that. But only if you are open to change at that mid-life point!
To accomplish great things we must not only act but also dream; not only plan but also believe– Anatole France.
So, for the teenagers reading this, keep believing in the power of your dreams, and don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t be who you want to be or do what your heart wants you to do.
Take the time to think about what it is that you want, what your passions are… and make sure you live them.
For the adults reading this, the next time you see a kid who thinks he’s superman, cheer him on. Let’s together stop crushing the creativity and passion of the young ones around us.
Keep Your Chin Up
Only those close to me know how important dreams are in my life and how much consideration I give to them. I even started a dream journal early this year (something I should have done ages ago) so I can capture all the amazing and sometimes weird details of the dreams I have. Yes, I know at times dreams don’t mean anything at all and they are just a reflection of events in our lives or something of the sort, but sometimes dreams come with a message. S
Sometimes there’s a meaning to them. Heck, it’s my dream, I can do whatever I like with it. And if I want to live my life guided by my dreams or if I want to try to analyze what my dream meant or make it food for thought, then so be it.
Last night’s dream was one of those I had to write down and I thought I might as well share it here since the message can be very universal. So in my dream, I was supposed to stand in line and give this stranger advice on how to solve a problem he’s just shared with us. I was totally unprepared and had no idea how to help him solve his problem…but being me, of course, I did manage to say something, and here’s what I said…
He was looking down feeling sad, and I held his face in my hands, making him look up and I said:
“I don’t know how to solve your problem, but here’s what I do know. You need to keep your chin up. I know it is not much advice, but I want you to promise me that you will try it out for 1 week. See what you can come up with during that time with your chin up. And if it doesn’t work, then you don’t have anything to lose from trying.”
That was it. Even my subconscious mind is a coach working at it in my sleep! They say that you can be any or all the characters you see in your dream. So I could very well be giving that advice to myself, and a very well-needed piece of advice I might add.
Who doesn’t need to hear it?! I realized that a lot of people don’t even know what it means to keep their chin up. We go about our days and we forget that attitude and ‘how’ we show up for life matters.
You can be the best at your game like Happy Gilmour’s golf opponent but with the wrong attitude you will suck and people will think you suck. Who you are being when you wake up in the morning every morning, is something you do have control over.
Tomorrow morning as you look at yourself in the mirror while brushing your teeth, lift your chin up and notice how that little shift in how you hold your face does have an impact. You can’t be sad and have your chin up, you can’t be negative and have your chin up.
When your chin is up, it is easy to be happy, to be positive, and to say to your reflection, “You rock. You can do anything. You have an amazing day!”
And do let me know how did your day go afterward.
Chin up, my friends!