Two little simple words each on its own, put together they make for one huge concept. One not to be taken lightly. It’s like a mysterious puzzle, with scattered parts on an ever lasting search to be whole! Nahhhh… I don’t subscribe to that idea.
I’m always puzzled by why people, generally speaking, look at single women (and men) with a sprinkle of pity in their eyes. It’s like the look means ‘you are only in transition and you should not loose hope, someone is out there for you’. Now, I’m all for soul mates, twin flames or whatever else you want to call it, but not when you are to be made to feel incomplete for not having one. It’s worse when it’s you who think less of yourself for not having found your soul mate yet. What if that single person is just totally blessed out being single, or just in major life transition where having a partner is not a priority, or a million other scenarios?!
A relative of mine whom I love so fondly, only ever wanted to know when was I going to settle down back when I was in my twenties. It’s like no news about how successful I was at my career, or the fun traveling I enjoyed, or anything else would be satisfactory. She used to always say, “Come to Tripoli (my hometown) and I’ll have you married off within a week!” Like I’m stock that needs to be moved.
As you move from one age range box to another, your options decrease. Or so they have you believe, adding to the stress of it all. It’s already almost a burden to find the right mate, more so when you have a ticking clock over your head and people nagging ‘what’s wrong with you? Why aren’t you married yet?’
I remember being a fresh graduate still, when I planned one Valentine’s day to go attend a gala dinner run by my alumni chapter. I was single. I was going alone. My friends told me I was crazy and shouldn’t do something like this to myself! I defied the odds and went. Got to meet some real good people whom I’m friends with still today, almost 14 years later. If you are single, and you want to go out, make sure you take one very important thing with you… your friends.
You are never alone. Dare to put yourself out there along the path of doing what you love in life… and along that path is where you will meet your soul mate. Wherever you are in the world, there’s someone out there for you.
Someone awesome enough to want to be with you. But my question to you now is, ‘who do YOU need to BE, so you can attract that person to you?’
If you are 25, 35 or 45, single and don’t want to be so, take some time to ponder that question and then go out there and Be You! Age doesn’t matter. Stop with the excuses that you run in your head like a broken record and get on with it, play a new tune. One that you actually love… who knows, you might very well find someone who will come and sing along with you!