Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat Pray Love, at one of her talks, explains how she’s only ever met 3 types of women.
• Women who have chosen career over family, and are conflicted about their choice.
• Women who have chosen family over career, and are conflicted about their choice.
• Women who (God bless them) have chosen family and career, and are conflicted about their choice!
I totally agree. I see this in my coaching practice all the time. Women conflicted about their choices. However, she’s missed out on one more category of women.
Women who seem to be unable to choose between career and family. They have not yet made that critical choice… so that they go on to feel conflicted about that choice too! Feeling if they chose one, they might lose out on the other. And so, a vicious cycle starts. Like they are on a merry-go-round and they don’t know when or how to get off! By not choosing, we preserve our right to both, without having to commit to either. Needless to say, this is not the most ideal of categories.
What is it about our choices that get us all conflicted? Why should there always be guilt around making a choice? Imagine how different our lives would be, if we were to choose and be mighty confident about it!