In just about any uncomfortable or stressful situation there are only 3 options for a solution. No matter how you look at it, it will be variations of the same 3 major options as per Eckart Tolle in The “Power of Now”. It all comes down to what option are you going to act on NOW.
• You can change the situation
There are no other options. To elaborate, any situation can be changed. You can change the circumstances or talk to someone to change their opinion or attitude, you can change offices, the house, your boss. Sometimes…you know that is impossible. There would be absolutely nothing you can change about the situation you are in. Like the Titanic… a sinking ship, you know it’s going down and there is nothing you can do about it! The good news is that you have other options.
• You can change yourself
The second option, the easier-said-than-done option, is to change yourself. I’m still learning to do this. But the reality is that the only person you have control over is yourself. You can change your attitude towards someone, you can change your opinion about the circumstances, you can change just about anything you set your mind to. First crucial step here is to admit that something in you has to change as opposed to blaming others or the situation, thinking they have to change.
• You can remove yourself from the situation
If that is not your option, or you have tried and tried and the situation is still unbearable or stressful, then the last option is to simply remove yourself from the equation. Now this is the hardest of the options by far. This could mean abandoning a marriage or leaving a great position with benefits or moving to a new city and be far from loved ones. Very tough to do and most people, women specifically, are hesitant and reluctant of change. Once that change is made though….life starts smiling again. You just have to have trust.
It is difficult when you are in the slums or stressed out to the max to remember that you are still in control and that you do have options.
You are in control of Now and what you can do right this moment about anything at all.
Time is your friend, but it is also your enemy. Time and Pain have a pact. Where one goes, the other would follow… in stressful situations where you don’t take action that is. The longer time you take to act… the longer time you have with what you want to end… and the longer time will make you wait for what it is you want to have in your life instead.
So the choice is yours. ACT NOW!